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Anorexia, Bulimia, Eating Disorders, Body Image: Chasing an Illusion
Obsession with body and weight and subsequent disordered eating is a painful journey of chasing an illusion. Many women, and a grown number of men, are driven by a compulsive need to have the “perfect body”, and will go to any length to achieve this. The problem is that this involves fighting against ourselves and reality on a daily basis. This process is exhausting and never results in anything other than suffering.
Whenever we fight against change, we suffer. Anorexia and bulimia involve an
attempt to control our bodies and our lives and keep everything the same. We
have a mind-set, “I have to remain at this specific weight,” and we fight
relentlessly to maintain that weight. The problem is that the body naturally
fluctuates. Body weight naturally changes throughout the day, throughout the
month, and throughout the years of our lives. Our bodies grow older; our skin
changes; our hair changes; our bodies constantly and consistently change.
Anorexia and bulimia provide no room for this natural change and fluctuation.
One doesn’t need to have an eating disorder to be chasing the illusion,
however. Most women in this culture have a distorted body image that keeps them
constantly yearning to be different from how they are. The body that is promoted
in the media is the body that no one actually has – it is a body young,
perfectly tone, fit, and blemish-free. It is the body of a photograph, not the
body of a human being.
Yet we continue to fight fiercely for the illusion. We go on diet after diet,
get face lifts and liposuction, and attempt to not experience the reality of
life, the reality of change. As long as we continue to grasp after an idealized
version of the human body, while forsaking the body that we have right now, we
will suffer. We will suffer because we are trying to run away from reality,
which is impossible; we are chasing an illusion which will never materialize.
This is not to say we can’t make healthy lifestyle choices and develop a
healthier body – of course we can. There can be positive changes to our body,
such as greater fitness, health, and vibrancy. It is when we cling and grasp
after these changes that we suffer. It is when we need our body to look a
certain way in order to feel good about ourselves that we suffer. It is when we
run away from the reality of our bodies and chase a photographic mirage that we
If you want to live a life of peace, joy, and love with your body, you must
begin to accept your body as it is. You must learn to cultivate love and
appreciation, and let go of grasping after an illusion.
This is a process, and a great exercise to practice body-acceptance is the Mirror Exercise:
Before you go to bed at night, stand in front of the mirror with your clothes off. Notice your tendency to judge or criticize your body. Gently let go of the judgment and instead focus on what you appreciate about your body. It can be something small, perhaps just the fact that your body has healed you of illness, or perhaps just your big toe. Pick something about your body that you appreciate. Offer yourself the gratitude and appreciation that you deserve. Over time you can transform your criticism and your judgment into appreciation, love, and gratitude.
As you practice accepting your body as it is, while letting go of your
illusion of how it should be, you can cultivate a relationship of peace,
harmony, laughter, and love with your body and yourself.